The Friend Criteria, part 2
“Your ‘Friend Criteria’ post made it seem like Type 2 friends were bad people,” Ian said. (He’s Type 2.) I laughed, “That was the toned down version…I actually edited it based on Cory’s feedback.”...
Author: waldenwest
Do you like white elephant gift exchanges?
Two years ago I was the unlucky recipient of the worst white elephant gift ever: rollerblades in men’s size 8 / women’s size 10. Below are a few of the reasons I strongly disliked...
“Let’s meet up,” part 5
The Friend Criteria Apparently there are 2 types of people in the world: Type 1: People who think friendships need to be maintained. Type 2: People who think friendships don’t need to be maintained....
Do you play board games?
I am convinced that all cool people enjoy playing board games, which is surprising for many reasons, but for one: I have never seen any cool people in a board game store. You can...
“Let’s meet up,” part 4
Friend C: “Aren’t these posts about friendship? Why don’t you state that explicitly?” Me: “Yeah, that’s not my style…but tell me why I should?” Friend C: “You’re showing and not telling…and there’s value in...
“Where are you from?”, part 3
So I got a lot more data/feedback after part 2 of “Where are you from?”, and figured I’d write a follow-up to my follow-up. 🙃 “Where are you from?” In case you missed it, my...
“Let’s meet up,” part 3
I met JJ through Allen last September, and like Allen he was friendly and, more importantly, a really good volleyball player. They had met in college, and Allen connected us since JJ had recently...
“Where are you from?”, part 2
I love that the Merriam-Webster definition of cringe is “to recoil in distaste,” because it accurately describes how I feel when somebody (typically non-Asian) asks me, “Where are you from?” A few years ago...
“Let’s meet up,” part 2
“I’m not a good reacher-outer,” Kevin said, rather matter-of-factly. Kevin had moved out of the Bay Area a few years ago, but prior to that he was one of my closest friends…I was also...
“Let’s meet up”
Rant #147: People who say “let’s meet up” but have little to no follow-through. I used to assume, silly me, that people meant it when they say “let’s meet up sometime.” Since I’ve had...
Ted, thanks for your courage for speaking out your thoughts, especially right after this horrible event. It's been a a…